That’s a hard word. It’s very, very hard to say…and it’s really hard to hear. I have been practicing saying “no” in my life, and it’s not a lot of fun.
I worry a lot that I am going to hurt someone’s feelings.
When you hear “no” sometimes you feel rejected. So saying “no” to someone else makes you wonder if they feel like you are rejecting THEM……not just what they are offering. This is a tricky situation because you are left feeling torn between protecting your time, and hurting someone’s feelings.
In the end, you have to be more protective of your life (your time) than you are of the way you are perceived. You cannot control what other’s think or how they feel.
You can’t. Ever.
People gonna think….what they gonna think….
I love the scripture that says, “as much as it depends on you, live at peace with all men”.
“As much as it depends on you”……
But some of it doesn’t depend on you, and is left out of your hands.
Like the way people may perceive your “no”.
Say “no” respectively with as much authentic appreciation as you can…..but know its okay sometimes to respectfully decline.
If you don’t want to do something, or if you literally do not have the time for it—for heaven’s sake run from it!! Those who cannot understand or respect that are not worth the precious effort that you invest.
“No” is a very hard word to hear and to say. However not saying it causes ALOT of regret and ultimately adds stress to your life.
Feeling “obligated” in relationships is a violation of boundaries that will ultimately drive a wedge in those relationships — that although you meant your “yes” to prevent conflict, actually pushes you further (emotionally) from that person. Because they don’t really know how you feel, and you will probably end up bitter/annoyed with them. And how is that fair to them? Or you?
So say, “no”.
It really is.
And for the record…I wrote this blog so I could read it;)