The Procrastination Monster

Isn’t it crazy how we know the right thing to do…

but its just so hard actually doing it?

So we put it off looking for different formulas..

Different ways to approach it..

Different angle to tackle it…

Different gym to join…

Different day to start…

Different accountability partner…

Different time to implement…

However in the end….it comes down to just doing it.

There is no getting around it. 

There is no “new quote” that will make it easier.

There is no person who can “hold you accountable”

At the end of the day….its up to me. And what I choose to do.

If I want to be healthy. I need to work out and eat right.

If I want better relationships, I need to be bold enough to ask forgiveness.

If I want to start a business, I need to go down to the courthouse and start some paper work.

If I want to write a book, I need to….write.

As much as our attentions may be good.

Proof is in the pudding.

We know the answers

the question is

How long will it take us to decide to just do them?

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Can you delegate?

Can you delegate?

I am a leader.

I have no problem walking into a room and taking charge.
I like people. And I love strangers. I love seeing a problem, and figuring out the quickest way to fix it.
There are several good qualities of being a leader…but there is also a lot we have to be careful of.

One thing specifically is willingness to delegate.

For me that’s been a tough lesson to learn. Being passionate about what I do, I’ve worried about handing over certain tasks or projects to people.
Not because they were incapable, but because I was being controlling.

Since I have been working on that in my own life I have really noticed it in other leaders as well. They are so in love with what they do (which is good) that they never give others and opportunity to thrive.

So its got me to thinking. What is a good leader?
Part of it is being willing to give others the reins.

Be secure enough to let somethings go.

Let mistakes be made, and lessons be learned.

See we can’t do everything. It honestly slows us down when we are not willing to let others do somethings, and even…..gasp….be in charge of something.

Let go.

Sometimes being strong is allowing others to lead.


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No Shortage of the Cautious

No Shortage of the Cautious

“There are three types of people in the world today. There are “well-poisoners” who discourage you and stomp on your creativity and tell you what you can’t do.
There are “lawn-mowers,” people who are well-intentioned but self-absorbed; they tend to their own needs, mow their own lawns, and never leave their yards to help another person.
Finally, there are “life-enhancers,” people who reach out to enrich the lives of others, to lift them up and inspire them.
We need to be life-enhancers and we need to surround ourselves with life-enhancers.
-Walt Disney

I just want to propose something as you go along in your day today.
There is no shortage of “reasonable” cautious people. A person venturing out into the unknown will have hundred different voices predicting the hundred different ways they could possibly fail.

If you truly want to make a difference in someone’s life, be the one who says, “Go for it”.
How many biographies are written that credit the people in their life who discouraged them to consider why they couldn’t/shouldn’t? No….credit is due to those who believed in them. Who shined light on their strengths. Reminded them that they could.

It’s really important to believe in yourself.
But the true evidence of that will be displayed in how you believe in others.


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See the Good

See the Good

There are good, kind, and selfless people in the world.

Sometimes we need to remember that.
Negative stories spread like wildfire, and we forever remember words that have hurt us. We hold on so tightly to the things that damaged us, and easily forget the moments that  have healed us. We all make mistakes and no one will be 100% selfless at all times. However there are times we need to pause and look and see the good in one another. See the good in ourselves.

Be grateful for the friends you do have and not be upset about the ones you don’t.
Hold on to the memories of your family that uplift you, and not dwell on the pain.
Think about the good qualities that YOU have, and quit being so hard on yourself.

There is good in the world. There are kind people. We have to hold on to that and believe in it. We cannot walk around in defeat.

We rob ourselves when we play  the victims.

Hold on to the good. Fight for the good. Believe its there- In others and in yourself.


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The #1 Reason Why You Shouldn’t Compare

The #1 Reason Why You Shouldn’t Compare

For the past three or four years, I have owned a photography business.  I have loved it. I hope to start another business in the near future. One thing I’m not fond of in the small business world (I know its in another world’s too)- is all the  competition and the insecurity.

I have actually lost friendships because of this under ground rule that the ‘other people’ are your enemy.
I love all the “Top 5/10/20 etc Reasons Why _____” posts. But in writing this blog, I could only think of one real reason why you shouldn’t compare. Ready?

1. It kills you.

There is no one else who is damaged. You are.
Not only do you lose potentially valuable relationships….you actually drive yourself into the ground.

The people in your industry/business are just like you. If we would be a little more confident these people could actually become good supporters and allies. Who else could better understand or relate to what you are experiencing in your business?

You are unique. Even if you are selling the exact same thing as Joe down the street…you bring something different to the table. And so does Joe.

Napoleon Hill said that the root of competition is the “fear that there is not enough to go around”.

Its like we are scrambling for the last cookie on the plate…but we don’t realize there is an oven full about ready to come out.  If you want something bad enough…you can and will be successful at it.

No matter how many people are already it. People are not your enemy. Comparison is. Fear is.
Stop comparing. Start being creative.


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More than “okay” with change

More than “okay” with change

Things are going to change. Its inevitable.
To be who we need to be, we have to be more than just “okay”with change.

We have to want it.
Embrace it.
Look for it.

Most people hate change. They want whats comfortable and easy.

Growth requires change.

So if you hate change, you actually hate growth. Growing means that:

I may have to move.
I may have to change my mind.
I may have to meet someone else.
I may have to stop something.
I may need to do something.

Just do what it takes.
And grow.

Be more than okay with change.


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Mountains Can Move

Mountains Can Move

We have a tendency to reflect on what we could have done…
Or should have done

It’s easy to think something is “too late” or “final”.
I just don’t believe it. I refuse to. It’s an easy way out.

Life would be extremely depressing if everything were irreversible or impossible.
But mountains can move. Things can change.

No matter how old you are, how much you have screwed up…..the life you want is fully possible.

Hope defined (Snyder, 2005) is “a belief that one can find pathways, to desired goals and become motivated to use those pathways”

1) pathways are there
2) use them.

I have defined success in my own life as “living to my full capacity.”
At “full capacity”  life does not have room for thoughts that dwell on the past, or regret, or disbelief.
Tomorrow is fully dependent on what I choose today. And what I  believe is possible.


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3 Ways to Share Energy and Light in Troubled Times

3 Ways to Share Energy and Light in Troubled Times

Super excited about today’s post from Jenny “Jonesy” Thompson. It’s funny because before she sent me this video I had been thinking over and over again this week about the message of hope. I believe that hope is still present in this world. There ARE still good people out there.

I hope this video encourages you to see and spread the light:)


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Jenny loves helping women find their beauty and fashion groove. She also enjoys bargain hunting, thrifting, cooking, veggie eating, tea & coffee drinking, yoga, hiking, and DIYs. And the beach. And making new friends. So please don’t be a stranger; comment and say hi!

She also posts new videos on Tuesdays and Thursdays! Check out her Website.  Also be sure to follow her on Twitter, FaceBook  Pinterest and Instagram @jonesythompson

 

 

 


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I made two lists today.

I made two lists today.

I made two lists today. One was shorter than the other.

The first list consisted of what my priorities were (a condensed version of my overall “dream/goal” for my life).

The next list was about twice as long.

This list consisted of everything that I am involved in (all the “side” projects).  It contained of a bunch of little things- that added up to WHOLE lot of things.
Can you relate?

I don’t think our problem is knowing what we want with our lives….
but knowing how to stay focused and loyal to it.

If I want to be a painter, but do not paint, because I am “too busy” ….will I ever become one?
If I want to be a writer but spend time in random projects that do not further me in this pursuit…who is to blame?

Should we abandon everything that does not specifically involve our major goal in life? Of course not…

I am just starting to notice that a bunch of little things add up.
These are the things that claim my life.
And the distractions are not to blame.
I am.

We have choices.

Our lives are about what we give priority to. What we fight for.
What we don’t give up on.
Part of fighting for something is defending it against all others.

Say no to the little things, so you can say yes to the big ones.

 


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“Find Your Grit” by Laura Harris

“Find Your Grit” by Laura Harris

Grit is being stubborn in the face of fear.
Grit is the first time you try something and it’s the thousandth time too.
Grit is expecting fear and moving forward anyway.”

Jon Acuff, Do Over

When did you last experience grit? Like True-Jeff-Bridges-with-that-bristly-beard-Grit?

I found my grit on January 2nd, 2013. (No beard was present.) Five hours into the New Year, I made myself a sandwich. Five seconds later, my water broke. Twenty-nine hours later, I became a mom.

The space between those last two sentences contains over a DAY of pain-med free, harrowing labor. When people climbed into their beds that night, I was entering the final stage of active labor, moaning or howling through contractions every 5 minutes. My husband and my doula (birth coach) took turns beside me all night, putting a wash cloth on my forehead, breathing with me, telling me to breathe, leaving me alone when I told them to stop telling me to breathe.

Then, my daughter was born at 9:57 a.m.

And that’s when I found my grit.

So my question is, how do you channel your past moment of grit (running your first mile, starting your first business, losing weight) into what you’re pursuing today?

It’s a tough question. I sympathize.

See, I became a financial coach in 2014 and launched a personal finance blog in 2015. LaMaze breathing techniques weren’t very helpful when I was trying to figure out how to sync my email list with WordPress or how to use widgets. Banging my head against the wall seemed much more appealing.

But I was eager to make a difference, to help people with their finances. My husband and I took Financial Peace University in 2011, just before getting married. We paid off $22,000 to be become debt-free just weeks before my previously mentioned delivery of our first child.

So my personal finance platform was worth the grit. And yours is too.

Here are 3 steps to finding your grit when problems cloud your focus and you lose sight of the big picture:

  • Make a “grit list”Jon Acuff wrote in his latest book Do Over that physically writing down the list of things that take grit in your life (i.e. emailing, bookkeeping, budgeting, etc), will enable you to push through. What are those for you? Write them down.
  • Figure it out – Bryan Harris from VideoFruit.com put together a powerful video message to his subscribers (mostly online entrepreneurs). He just kept saying, “Figure it out. Figure it out. Figure it out.” After the 37th time, I got it. What problem are you facing? Don’t wait for someone to check on you. Don’t spend the next three days complaining about it. Don’t quit because you’re stuck. Figure it out.

I can testify that the biggest growth I’ve seen is when I figure something out on my own. The growing pains ache, but what a reward.

  • Join a community – Six months ago, I knew absolutely nothing about launching a blogging career. My previous blog looked more like, “Dear Diary, college stinks. I miss my mom’s cooking.”

But once I started meeting other bloggers, writers and coaches, either through Facebook, other blogs, or membership sites, I realized there were so many networks filled with generous and enthusiastic people. Probably 90% of what I’ve learned was from listening to conversations throughout my communities.

So be brave and dial in your grit. Write down the tough stuff. Figure out a solution. Then find a community of like-minded, encouraging individuals who can support you – like Heather or myself.

You’ve got this.

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 Laura Harris is a financial coach, freelance writer and mother of two. When she’s not on an adventure with her family, or curled up on    the couch reading a book, you can find her blogging at PiggyBankDreams.com where she writes about personal development and practical  finance.


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